The following is a questionnaire which will get at the heart of those who belong to the me, me, me society and only require yes or no answers. Circle either yes or no for the following three questions. Do you like winning trophies? Yes / No Are you part of the me, me, me society?…
The issue that most coaches have at the moment is that they want to coach and they are currently dealing with people who only want to be kept happy, in other words the me, me, me society. With the me, me, me society you’ll never keep them happy because they’ll never tell you what does,…
With sulkettes, they don’t want coaching, all they want is everything laid on for them and done for them as well. In other words they just want someone who is a shepherd. You only have to look at a herd of sheep to see how athletic they are and this is what the sulkers become….
With all this political correctness and all the work done by marketers we have created a me, me, me society and currently it sits at about 40% of the population. You will always get a small section of the population who are me, me, me though with the above influences it has crept higher and…
Imagine if you got cancer, would you take steps to eliminate and remove it or feed and encourage it. I think we know the answer to that, remove and eliminate. Yet when it comes to sulking in others we feed and encourage it. Sulking if left unchallenged will eventually consume and destroy an organisation. I…
The interesting thing about sulking is that it is a taboo subject for those who sulk. For those who don’t sulk, they’ll happily talk. Part of the reason why sulkers don’t want to talk about sulking is because it is a tool they use to control and manipulate others and by talking about sulking, their…
I’ve been thinking of a way to define sulkettes and the following is one of the first goes and I’m sure it’ll develop over time as a better understanding arises. Sulkette: Is someone whose sole aim is to get one over you and their tool of choice is sulking. A sulkette had no interest in…
Now that I’ve mentioned about sulking and sulkers, one will start seeing them and your first reaction will be, it’s everywhere and it’s rife. The reason being: Sulking in all of its disguises as a manipulation tool is more prevalent than we care to admit
In asking the question, do you like winning? In coming to understand sulkettes, I now realise that that question is missing one key word. For the word winning means different things to different people. Winning for sulkettes means only one thing, getting their way So the question now becomes more specific with one extra word…
It doesn’t matter what one says or writes about sulking or how one tries to justify it, there is only one truth about it. That truth is this: Sulking is an insidious form of manipulation Though it may appear like it, sulking has got nothing to do about emotions, it’s all about control. Sulkers are…
The following link is for a new poster about needy people, especially for identifying their behaviour http://beawinningcoach.com/documents/Needy%20People%20Coaching%20Poster.pdf If unaware about the effect of needy people’s behaviour, most coaches end up spending more time juggling people, than focusing on coaching. The big issue with needy people is that they are focusing on getting attention rather than…
The following should help in defining and identifying possible sulkettes within ones ranks Sulkettes are: Needy Selfish Don’t value your time and effort Don’t care about the bigger picture Will begin sulking if they don’t get their way or what they want As can be seen, it doesn’t leave one much room for working with…
Been re looking at one of the questions asked, namely, what if my players do not want to learn? Apart from working from the aspects of a failing mind, chances are the player will more than likely be a sulkette. The reason being: There is normally more than one answer to a question asked, it…
Like a human body, every team has a cancer within them and normally it’s kept under control. Unfortunately like the human body, cancers are rife at the moment and for teams, one only has to look at political correctness to see a cause of the rise in teams. This cancer in teams is the people…
I’ve come to the conclusion there is a new type of person out there and I’ve decided to call them sulkettes. They seem to delight in running you around and when you appease them they are still not happy. Sulkettes are needy and selfish and sulk at the drop of a hat. There is probably…
As a coach, you can do all the right things in the world, but if people sulk, you’re stuffed
Sulking reveals a lot about people and it’s like they’re holding up a neon sign. Sulking shows: Lack of character Lack of heart Lack of respect Ignorance of the bigger picture And Sulking: Destroys Teams Creates Failures And One can have all the talent in the world, but if they sulk, they might as well…
One of the biggest dangers to building any team is from people who sulk. Because sulking prevents people from: Learning Working Hard Doing what’s required And one of the biggest things is: If one sulks, it shows there is currently no strength of character
There are three things that goes into identifying Sulky Prima Donnas, irrespective of how talented they are. The three indicators are: Information given for improvement is ignored Only prefer playing one position Don’t like working hard And what Sulky Prima Donna’s (SPD’s) do is use their sulkiness to control others, in other words, I’m not…
Do you have athletes who have all the talent in the world, but if you try to impart any information on to help improve them, they begin sulking? Or one tells them during games where to go and stand because things are about to fall apart and the opposition goes ahead, and their effort just…
